That first year, I just wrote down my own good deeds each day, ones that were always a service to someone else. By the end of the year I had figured out that the good deed referred to doing good things, and sometimes those good things were for me. That's when I decided to take the challenge and do the suggested deeds. That meant going to Anthropolgie last Christmas time to buy another copy of this journal.
Early in January I just started thumbing through the book, which I was also using for my goal journal, to pick out ideas. I dated each one as I did it.
Many of the things in the book I do all the time anyway, like smiling at a stranger, telling people their children are beautiful, being quick to apologize, reading and going for a walk. Some things just didn't fit the way I live, like learning my barrista's name and calling her by it, since I don't drink coffee, I tweaked this one to be my waiter.
It was obvious that the list was made by people a generation and a half younger than me, as it had me sending pictures, stories and flowers to my mother and grandmother, etc. Instead I did the deeds but sent them to my children or grandchildren.
Some were a challenge like the one that wanted me to drop change in an expired parking meter. We don't have change operated meters in Utah where I live, but when we were driving through New Mexico ...
By mid November, when I should have been down to the last 45, I still had a hundred and twenty five to go, so I put it in high gear and started doing more than one thing some days. One day I did about 10 things, including drawing a hopscotch in chalk ... (do you see where I goofed?)
... and hanging a bird feeder.
Some big projects, like my festival of trees tree including several items, like sewing a dress for a child, crafting something, donating money to a good cause, etc.
One day's suggestion was that I leave flowers on a monument for someone I admire. Since a headstone is a monument, I did find my husband's great, great, great grandmother, Hannah Ann Dubois Dibble's headstone, in the same town where I work. I've always meant to do that, and now I have.
I was a little worried about shoveling snow, but we got some in the nick of time ... this is my next door neighbor's walk.
And I think my grands had fun going to the animal shelter.
I definitely should have done the impromptu picnic sooner, but thankfully I have a garden house with faux fireplace that really heats up...
... and a husband whose a good sport.
For the swimming suggestion, I took my daughter's advice and counted wading in the ocean in Texas with my girls back in March.
Then last but not least was this weird one that I just felt silly doing ... but I did it today.
Yes I did, I acted confident, and waved at cars as they went by. Some people honked, some people waved, some people ignored me, and I was surprised to see how many people were on their phones ....
Still, it feels great to be done! And sometimes along the way I had to go out of my comfort zone, which I think is almost always a good things.
Oh except the one I refused to do, just standing on principle. I did not offer someone constructive criticism, because I do not believe there is any such thing.
Now on to a new year, and new goals ... I will tell you one thing I have finally learned, though. The only way for me to even remember what my New Year's Resolutions are, is to keep a goal journal. This was my third year to do it, and I doubt I will ever skip it again. Daily accountability, even to yourself works wonders!!
I hope you having an amazing New Year! -Paula
My gosh, you have been a busy bee haven't you! Way to go Paula...that last one would definitely be a challenge for me...you rock!
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Makes me want to join you and try to be a better person!
Thanks!!!!!